When Will We Stop Listening To Narcissists?

 

When Will We Stop Listening To Narcissists?

By Billy King

In a recent post on my page, I gave examples of narcissists. I would like to expand on that by giving this more extensive writing on the subject.

First, let us start with a definition. Webster defines a narcissist as an extremely self-centered person who has an exaggerated sense of self-importance.

The word narcissist derives from a Greek Mythology figure, Narcissus, who was so impossibly handsome that he fell in love with his own image reflected in a pool of water. Even the lovely nymph Echo could not manage to tempt him from his self-absorption. He ultimately died of thirst and starvation because he could not pull himself away from his own reflection in a pool of water.

While today’s narcissists are not quite as extreme as to starve themselves, they are extremely self-absorbed and constantly put others down to make them feel better about themselves. It seems that the favorite tool of a narcissist is gaslighting.

Gaslighting is the manipulation of a person or persons by feeding untruths to them that make them question their own sanity. The term originates from a British Play named “Gaslight” in which a husband attempts to convince his wife and others that she is insane by manipulating small elements of their environment and insisting that she is mistaken, remembering things incorrectly, or delusional when she points out these changes. The play's title alludes to how the abusive husband slowly dims the gaslights in their home, while pretending nothing has changed, to make his wife doubt her own perceptions.

Many relationships with narcissists involve gaslighting. The narcissist in the relationship will feed his or her partner with untruths about themselves to make the narcissist feel superior. For example, a husband may question his wife’s beauty - only slightly at first – but gradually more over time so that she will feel fortunate to have the one man who overlooks her self-perceived flaws and that there really is no one better than him. Another example is a wife who questions her husband’s intelligence to the point that he depends on her for even the most menial task thus make her the center of his world. These types of relationships wind up being very toxic and damaging. My simplistic view is that it is just plain mental abuse. There is no love. How can someone mentally abuse the person that he or she is supposed to care for?

This all brings me to my original point in my post about some on the left. I see them as nothing more than self-absorbed narcissists.

First, you have Michelle and Barack Obama, a US President and First Lady from 2008 to 2016. Both have written bestsellers and have multiple homes including one in Martha’s Vineyard. Yet they will try to tell you that the very system that allowed them to become the first black First Couple is the same system that holds all other black people down

Oprah Winfrey is one of America’s wealthiest women with her own television network where she rubs elbows with literal royalty (see the interview with Meghan Markle and Prince Harry). This is a woman who was born into poverty in rural Mississippi and was a single mother at the age of 14. Her son was born prematurely and died in infancy. Yet she was able to rise above and be a success. Does she talk about how America is the ultimate land of opportunity that allows a young black woman to become a woman of prominence? On the contrary, she only talks about white privilege and how being black holds down other black people despite her own success.

There is also Don Lemon, a prime-time CNN anchor who has his own prime-time spot on CNN. Don once said, “…the biggest terror threat in this country is white men.” He then went on to say, “There is no ban — you know, they had the Muslim ban. There is no white-guy ban. So what do we do about that?” So when Don Lemon talks about racism, he ignores his own racist comments to denounce supposed racism from white people who tune into his show every night and are, in part, responsible for his success. I wonder what his white husband thinks of his comments?

Then there is bestselling author, Ibram X. Kendi who is sought after for speaking engagements as well as appearances on multiple news shows. According to Kendi, you cannot just refuse to be racist; you must be “anti-racist”. What does this even mean? Anti-racist? As opposed to being pro-racist? Kendi says that certain traits such as being punctual and speaking proper grammar are traits of white supremacy. Really? Who is the real racist here? Let me just go ahead and point out the gaslighting right here. Kendi is trying to tell black people that traits that will help them to be successful are forms of white supremacy and should be discouraged; while at the same time, blaming racism for black people being unsuccessful. This is textbook gaslighting at its best, or I should say at its worst!

Of course, we cannot talk about narcissists without mentioning LeBron James. LeBron is one of the most successful basketball players of all time. Has multimillion-dollar contracts with Nike as well as an upcoming movie that is the sequel to Michael Jordan’s Space Jam. King James, as he likes to be called, loves to tell everyone how the police are hunting down black men and murdering them. It does not matter to him that the police are justified the vast majority of the time. He even says that he is afraid to leave his own home. He wishes to abolish the police to protect black people but says nothing about abolishing his own security detail.

These are but a few narcissists on the left who gaslight Black Americans every day into thinking that they do not stand a chance in a country fraught with racism. The endgame, of course, is to keep others down in order to elevate themselves. That is always the goal of a narcissist. As long as others feel less about themselves, the narcissist will remain superior. These narcissists have the advantage of blaming a boogeyman, racism, so than no one suspects what they themselves are doing. 

I do not bring these people up to try to take away from their accomplishments, far from it! They should be extremely proud of their careers. I am simply begging the question, what makes these people so special?

Why is it that Barack Obama can overcome such a racist system and be elected twice to the most powerful position in the world yet a black kid growing up in Chicago cannot? Whose white privilege did Oprah borrow to get her own television network? How was Don Lemon able to pull the wool over the white terrorists’ eyes and get his own prime time show on CNN? When the TODAY Show books Kendi for an appearance, are they anti-racist or are they racist for expecting him to be there during airtime? Is the police really hunting down LeBron to murder him or do they ignore him simply because he obeys the law?

The answer to these types of questions is simple. There is nothing particularly special about anyone in the group of people mentioned; or at least nothing that warrants their positions. They worked hard to get where they are and so can anyone else. America is still the land of equal opportunity, but not equal outcomes. As I have pointed out before in my other writings, everyone gets dealt a different hand in life. It is how you play your cards that determines how successful you are. Do not let these or any other narcissists tell you any different!

While none of these narcissists mentioned or any others on the left will likely suffer the same fate as Narcissus, the victimhood mentality that they are forcing upon this country will ultimately starve Black Americans if they continue to listen to the gaslighting of these narcissists on the left.